When using a dating
service, one of the first mistakes people make is using
an out dated picture. Please use a fairly recent one, within the
last year, or take a new one. While it's true that looks
are important, remember you do not need to look like a
super model or a movie star to get a date. It will be
disappointing to a first date if they realize the
picture you gave them is ten years old. They will feel
that you were out to deceive them So, please use a recent picture. An honest
upfront profile and a realistic picture proves you are
serious and not playing games. A picture with a pet or a
funny picture can help break the ice.
Another mistake is not wearing clean presentable
clothing and or employing good grooming habits. If the
timing is off or you don't have enough time to get
ready, wash up or change, if necessary, then reschedule
the date, rather than risk a lousy first impression.
Also don't try too hard. It's okay if there's a bit of a
lag in conversation. You can always bring up the coffee,
weather, or something on the news. Don't strongly
express your political views or controversial topics.
Make sure you have enough cash to cover any small
purchases. It can be very embarrassing to realize on
your first date that you are going dutch and have no
cash. It's awkward, so always be prepared to pay for
yourself and for your date.
Being honest and upfront is the best way to avoid dating
mistakes. Make sure your profile and photograph are up
Another common mistake is giving out too much
information on a first date. Your occupation, where you
went to school, and the activities you enjoy in your
spare time are all good introductory topics of
A big dating no no is complaining about your last
relationship. Early on, your date will not want to hear
all the mistakes your ex made and how much you hate him
or her. It's okay to mention children, but don't go into
great detail about them early on. Showing a photograph
of you with your child is nice, but don't go on and on
about their allergies, asthma attacks, substance abuse
or nervous stomachs. There's plenty of time to delve
Everyone is plugged today and wired to stay connected,
but keep your cell phone on vibrate, or leave it in the
car. It is extremely rude to take phone calls when you
are with someone else. This is time cut out of one's
life to spend with each other and to see if you have
anything in common. Unless a close relative is bleeding
or otherwise in the emergency room, the call can wait.
We survived twenty years ago without cell phones.
Please do not be rude to waiters or waitresses or other
customers. Nothing leaves a sour note worse than that.
It conveys the type of person you really are. No one
wants to be with someone who is rude to people, even if
they are giving you substandard service.
The final dating mistake if you you really don't hit it
off, don't say you'll call. You can end it by simply
saying it was nice to meeting you. Resist the urge to
say "I'll call you" if you really don't plan
to. It's not nice and encourages false hope.
Most of all, make sure you enjoy yourself. If you are
not meant to be with this person, at least you can enjoy
a few laughs and some nice conversation.